Right. I was just trying to find a good way to express what…

Right. I was just trying to find a good way to express what for me was an epiphany, even though it may be very obvious:
The privilege women enjoy is the reason for their very common disdain of accountability and responsibility.
My sudden realization was that to them it feels insulting to be asked to be accountable. It means "you aren't THAT hot. Your beauty isn't enough to privilege you to the point where you are above all accountability."