CosmosStag ·
The narcissism's sense of superiority derives from a story that he told himself to help make childhood bearable, and it has become an addiction as an adult because it covers up for the fact that his real personality failed to develop. Behind his mask is an emptiness and to acknowledge this is an unbearable kind of nihilism for him. If a child is prevented from walking, his legs don't develop properly and when he grows up he cannot walk normally. The narcissist is like that. At around age 2, when a child starts to walk, he starts to take time independent of the parents and he uses that time to develop his own personality. In the childhood of a narcissist, this process was arrested. In some way, he was punished for attempting to develop his own personality. He responded by accepting his parents viewpoint and treating his budding personality as something bad that he should not indulge in. Instead, he adopted a persona that acted the way his parents wanted. This persona, coming from a child's imagination was like something that appealed to a child, like a superhero. Young children are not expected to engage with reality, as they are protected by the parents. They have a need to fantasize as a way of developing their minds. Unable to develop naturally, the narcissist remains trapped in a stage of childhood in which fantasy is more important than reality.