Hi everyone, I feel it's a safe space to bring this questio…
Hi everyone, I feel it's a safe space to bring this question up.
I moved to the states recently and for the first time, I feel like an alien.
I haven't figure how to make deep lasting relationships yet
What could I be missing? any hidden cultural codes?
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It depends what state you are in and what part of the state you are in. They are all so different to be honest.
That makes sense. I've been in Santa Monica for 3 months and 3 in SF. Any conclusions? Are these just the hardest places in the state to make a connection?
Those are busy body places. You just have to make 1 friend and grow with that 1 person. Everything else falls into place from there. What are your hobbies?
I lived in SF for 3 years. I moved there for a job, but Over 90% of the people I knew were also transplants, but they moved to SF just because. They didn't move there for a job or a specific reason, especially people in their 20's and early 30's.
These people end up not staying for a very long time. As you probably know, SF is very, very expensive to live in. You have a constant influx of people coming & going in SF, more than most other cities. It's hard to build a solid base of friends.
A couple people I went to college with moved out there. One of them moved there for work and the rest sort of just travel around and do adventurous stuff. I don’t know if they even work. Lol I think they are just rich or something.
Yeah, seems that even one is not easy. But it's not even that.
People would seem to be interested in an interaction or willing to make connections but shortly after -they disappear. That's what I don't get.
It is never like that where I come from
That makes sense I guess. Thanks for sharing your thoughts, it helps