Genuine question. If you dont like something about yourself…
Genuine question. If you dont like something about yourself, how do you go about changing that to become a better you?
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A time traveling frog once told me, “all we need is work and love”🧘♂️
First and foremost, pay attention.
Notice what it is that you don't like about yourself, figure out what you could possibly do to change that in a positive, or negative way.
Then, notice when you're engaging in those positive or negative behaviors.
Second, think before you act.
If you're paying attention, you can then notice when you're about to do either a positive or negative behavior, or when you have the opportunity for a positive behavior.
Take these opportunities to adapt your behaviors.
Third, design your life.
Notice what triggers you have. What leads you towards positive behaviors, what leads you towards negative behaviors.
Take small, purposeful steps to remove negative triggers, and to add positive triggers.
First acceptance and self love. It's hard to change something that you resist. From that space the answers usually come naturally. Plant medicine like Ayahuasca can aid greatly in that process.
These three things are extremely powerful.
It's an incomplete guide, but they are probably the strongest principles to help you, if a change can be made.
In some cases, though, change can't be made, and acceptance is far better than trying to change.
Going out of your comfort zone.
Assume a virtue though you have it not.
It takes 30 days to learn a new habit. Just plow through it.
take action ... at the beginning is about discipline and following through ... but after a while it becomes second nature and before you realized you have changed :) dont forget, be kind with yourself and have patience
Accept it.
Behaviors can be changed through thoughtful focus on how you want to change. It takes daily focus and support of close friends/family that act as accountability partners. Personality traits are more difficult, I do not know if they can be changed.
Meditation. But, honestly after age 50, I'd rather live up with that, accepting it is a part of myself.
Changing behavior takes training. A lot of the above is good but I'd add : take a life coach to go faster! Need one? Let me know! I accept BSV!
Changing habits is like running a marathon against them. It takes time and effort and sometimes you think you are far ahead just to see them at you side again. There is no finish line, you win when the competitors get so exhausted that they collapse.
The best phrasing will contain "I am ..." or "I can ...", picturing the desired state as already there.
Find the wording that clicks and describes best the change you want. Repeat this, say, 20 or 30 times before sleeping. Then, each day, act at least once on the desired change. Baby steps, towards your goal. Until it's realized.