Every time I try to do something with my 7 year old daughte…

I had to drag and carry her home because she won’t listen to me. Had to leave the sleds because I couldn’t carry her and her little sister at the same time back home.

I sent her to her room. Don’t know what else to do.

She’s got a sensory issue where she hurts when she puts on clothes so every morning and night is a big drama to find something she’ll wear.

She wouldn’t wear a snowsuit because it hurts and we tried like 1/2 a dozen suits and she freaks out and won’t let me try to adjust it.

She plays us on this sensory issue so we can’t tell if she just doesn’t want to go to school or if she really is feeling pain wearing certain clothing. We’ve been trying to get help figuring it out but it’s just the same thing day after day.

I’m seriously crying now about it because it’s making it impossible for us to work normal hours. How can we hold down jobs when this is our daily routine?

Something fun turns into a nightmare. Can’t take her anywhere without worrying about the tantrums.

She starts kicking and hitting and throwing things and screaming and hitting her little sister.

I know that somehow I must change this situation.

I’ve tried to relate to her but it’s not rational behaviour so it’s not at all something I feel like I can control. When I see other kids well behaved I wonder how I could have screwed things up so badly.

Hey, You're doing the best you can.
Sometimes it can be something as simple as an Iron or Vitb12 deficiency, maybe take her to get some simple bloods done if you can, try to rule out medical reason. And, perhaps, a psychologist might be able to help her

Try gradually increasing the severity of discipline until the behavior stops. Fun things should end and punishment should begin as soon as a tantrum starts. Tantrum needs to be associated with an immediate, unwavering, and notable undesirable outcome.

Now mom just came home and they are playing upstairs like nothing happened.

We have a doctor trying to work things out, but so far it’s still not working. We need a 2nd or 3rd opinion. We’ve tried different detergents and materials and give them vitamins. One thing is that she usually doesn’t want to eat in the morning.

Where is her sensory spot?
Have you considered that it may be related to the gut in some way? Gut microbe imbalance can cause all kinds of nasty side effects that you would assume are unrelated, but actually generally come down to one root cause.

At this point I have to follow through and give away and sell a bunch of her toys as punishment. She says she doesn’t care but she does, it’s a dare. I have to convince her mom to let me do that.

Thanks for the support @910 ... I appreciate the advice. I will make sure to go with them to try to work out the issues.

@1321 Thanks, I appreciate the advice.

If she is generally lethargic, and nauseous (no apetite) and generally pretty on edge, I would say its pretty likely combined with the sensory issues that it may be gut related. Certainly something to look into. I hope it gets better for you all!

Her arms and legs. We try loose clothes and loose shirts and once she just finally lets things adapt she is ok and wants to wear the same clothes and sleep in them and wear them everyday which you can imagine doesn’t work. If we wash it the cycle repeats.

I think that she’s starting to hit puberty already which is scary AF ... probably due to all the estrogen in the water.

Its also soooo hard to try to get your kids to explain exactly how they feel what and where. But if you can, try to give her some patience, she is 7 afterall and may be able to help you help her.

Ask her if it feels like she has ants in her arms and legs.

Will do. Thanks.

yes that is scary!!! Good luck to you all! Wishing you all the best 😘

Thanks 🙏🏽 again; being a dad is the hardest thing I ever had to do. Math is easy compared to this.

I know the feeling! 😘

She is tired in the morning because she won’t go to sleep ... it takes hours and hours to get her to sleep. She is often awake past midnight and keeps everyone awake. She is actually full of energy after she wakes up.

No problem, and good luck!